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Sex Tips for Geeks
Though it’s written more or less specifically for male computer hackers, the advice given here is solid and easily translates to anybody engaged in romantic relations. I want to draw your attention specifically to the chapter on Relationship Management, which I would love to see incorporated into sex ed classes:
If you’re not thinking, it’s probably because you’re in the initial period of intense, euphoric mutual fixation poets call “falling in love” and psychologists call limerence — nature’s superglue for pair bonding. Back in the 1980s one intrepid psychologist plotted the duration of sexual relationships in a suitably large population that was somehow induced to report their activity. He discovered that the period of limerence lasts on average six weeks before reality sets in and each partner begins to notice that the other is not quite perfect…
A vital thing to understand is that (despite what you’ve absorbed from a hundred sappy movies) limerence is not romance. It can be the launchpad of romance, but you won’t really know what kind of relationship you’re in until the glow of limerence fades. Could be romance, could be friendship, could be recreational, could be nothing and a breakup — it depends on how much and what kind of emotional binding the partners have done while their hormones were in an uproar.
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